I’m sure we’ve all been there, but on a daily basis, how many times do you worry about or get anxious about:
– What you posted on Facebook?
-How you run your business?
-How you’re parenting?
-Your new haircut?
-Your body image?
-All the things, all the time?
This has been so hard for me running several online businesses showing myself with new make-up on, talking about a new service I’m offering, or sharing about a mommy moment that I didn’t get right. When we post online, we submit ourselves to other eyes and other opinions. Social media has done so much for me, personally and professionally, but it has exposed me to the “what others think” monster too many times. I am daily battling negative thoughts about what I “think” others are thinking or saying about me. Here’s what I’ve learned so far:
1. Your “why” needs to be big enough and deep enough – When we have passion and purpose behind what we say, wear, do, or how we act, we’ll start to give less weight to the opinions of others. I partner with Beautycounter because I believe in getting everyone safer products they can love and trust. My ‘why’ runs so deep because I have seen the results of chemicals being in our products and food. So when someone messages me that “I’m not using eye makeup correctly,” I think about it and then move on because I know I am on mission to help others.
2. Remind yourself of the Truth – You are a child of God. A daughter of the King. A lot of times I find myself looking for instant gratification in a post or a video to fill a larger hole in my heart of insecurity and worth. You know how you tell yourself “you’ll never be enough,” or “you won’t achieve what you want?” You started believing that lie didn’t you? What if you daily basked in the truth of God’s word. If you’re a believer like me, you know that the Bible is God’s living Word to us. It’s alive meaning the words still apply today! Go read in Psalms 139 how he feels about you. Post it on a note and say that to yourself daily until you believe it!
3. Let go of people pleasing – As a 2 on the Enneagram, I’m a helper. A pleaser. I care deeply about others and that they are taken care of and appreciated. At times, I find my worth in what others think about me because I do care so much for people. But at the end of the day, not everyone is your biggest fan. You’ll drive yourself crazy trying to win everyone over. It’s not worth it! Ask God to help let your need to please everyone go and to give you peace with those who do love and encourage you.
I remember someone saying, “Other people’s opinions are none of your business.” While I understand the point, I don’t think it’s entirely correct. I do want to know that I haven’t offended close friends or been hurtful with my comments. My prayer is that any outfit you wear, new makeup you try, opinion you voice, or comment you make is a reflection of God in your life and you could live in peace that you are living in your full purpose and potential.
Do you worry too much about the opinions of others? Try one of these and let me know what progress you make! I’m cheering you on and praying for you!
PS – This still applies if you’re not on social but can get worked up over the opinions of others.